MARRIAGE: SACRED UNION

Malachi 2:16 “For the LORD, the God of Israel, saith that he hateth putting away: for one covereth violence with his garment, saith the LORD of hosts: therefore take heed to your spirit, that ye deal not treacherously.”

ABSTRACT

This article examines the sacred institution of marriage as established by God, the call to restore its original principles amid sin and unfaithfulness, Christ’s teachings on divorce and remarriage, and the path to redemption through grace, emphasizing obedience to God’s commandments as preparation for Christ’s return.

COMMANDMENT KEEPERS CLASH!

The third angel’s message, found in Revelation 14:12, delivers a profound statement about the endurance and faithfulness of God’s people. These individuals keep all of God’s commandments, as emphasized by Revelation 22:14 and John 14:15, which clarify that love for Jesus is demonstrated through obedience. This is why Satan wages war against God’s faithful remnant (Revelation 12:17). The significance of keeping all the commandments is evident in James 2:10, which underscores that breaking even one part of the law is tantamount to breaking the whole law. Among these commandments is the often overlooked tenth commandment, which warns against coveting (Exodus 20:17). To covet means to desire something that belongs to another, and this desire, according to Patriarchs and Prophets, is the root of all sin: “The tenth commandment strikes at the very root of all sins, prohibiting the selfish desire, from which springs the sinful act” (p. 309, 1890). Another term for covetousness is envy, a feeling of discontent or resentment toward another’s possessions or achievements. Obedience to the commandments requires complete surrender. Scripture echoes this truth in Romans 7:7, “What shall we say then? Is the law sin? God forbid. Nay, I had not known sin, but by the law: for I had not known lust, except the law had said, Thou shalt not covet,” and 1 John 5:3, “For this is the love of God, that we keep his commandments: and his commandments are not grievous.” “All true obedience comes from the heart. It was heart work with Christ. And if we consent, He will so identify Himself with our thoughts and aims, so blend our hearts and minds into conformity to His will, that when obeying Him we shall be but carrying out our own impulses. The will, refined and sanctified, will find its highest delight in doing His service. When we know God as it is our privilege to know Him, our life will be a life of continual obedience” (The Desire of Ages, p. 668, 1898). “The law of God, spoken in awful grandeur from Sinai, is the utterance of condemnation to the sinner. It is the province of the law to condemn, but there is in it no power to pardon or to redeem. It is ordained to life to those who walk in harmony with its precepts, and to death to those who disobey” (The Signs of the Times, April 15, 1886). As we explore the deeper implications of this commandment, it becomes clear that envy plays a significant role in the hearts of those who are drawn away from God. But what does true restoration entail in a world that has strayed from God’s design?

REFORMATION RALLY REVEALED!

On the message of restoration is a call to return to the ancient paths outlined by God, paths that lead to spiritual rest and renewal. As seen in Jeremiah 6:16, God calls His people to “ask for the old paths… and walk therein,” but, tragically, many refused, leading to captivity and loss (Jeremiah 6:16, KJV). Similarly, Christ’s call to “Come unto me… and I will give you rest” (Matthew 11:28-30, KJV) reinforces the importance of following God’s ways. These ancient paths represent divine principles, which bring peace when followed but result in turmoil when ignored. Restoration requires acknowledgment of our need for divine intervention. Psalm 23:3 declares, “He restoreth my soul: he leadeth me in the paths of righteousness for his name’s sake,” and Joel 2:25 promises, “And I will restore to you the years that the locust hath eaten, the cankerworm, and the caterpiller, and the palmerworm, my great army which I sent among you.” “In the time of the end every divine institution is to be restored. The breach made in the law at the time the Sabbath was changed by man, is to be repaired. God’s remnant people, standing before the world as reformers, are to show that the law of God is the foundation of all enduring reform and that the Sabbath of the fourth commandment is to stand as a memorial of creation, a constant reminder of the power of God. In clear, distinct lines they are to present the necessity of obedience to all the precepts of the Decalogue. Constrained by the love of Christ, they are to co-operate with Him in building up the waste places. They are to be repairers of the breach, restorers of paths to dwell in” (Prophets and Kings, p. 678, 1917). “The Lord gave us favor with the people, and we had many wonderful opportunities to demonstrate what could be done through the principles of health reform to restore to health those whose cases had been pronounced hopeless” (Manuscript 27, 1906). This essay will explore how restoration involves a return to these foundational truths and how this reformation is crucial for hastening Christ’s return. But how does the Bible support the necessity of this restoration?

RESTORATION RIGHTS REVEALED!

The assertion that restoration is necessary is supported by both scripture and prophetic writings. The Bible promises that Jesus will return when “the times of restitution of all things” have been fulfilled (Acts 3:19-21, KJV). Sr. White affirms this by stating that “In the time of the end every divine institution is to be restored” (Prophets and Kings, p. 678). Restoration is not limited to the Sabbath, which has traditionally been emphasized, but includes all divine institutions established by God. This broader understanding challenges us to look beyond just one aspect of reformation. Christ initiates this renewal clearly. Acts 15:16 states, “After this I will return, and will build again the tabernacle of David, which is fallen down; and I will build again the ruins thereof, and I will set it up,” and Isaiah 58:12 promises, “And they that shall be of thee shall build the old waste places: thou shalt raise up the foundations of many generations; and thou shalt be called, The repairer of the breach, The restorer of paths to dwell in.” “The history of the church and the world, the loyal and the disloyal, is here plainly revealed. The loyal under the proclamation of the third angel’s message have turned their feet into the way of God’s commandments, to respect, to honor, and glorify Him who created the heavens and the earth. The opposing forces have dishonored God by making a breach in His law, and when light from His Word has called attention to His holy commandments, revealing the breach made in the law by the papal authority, then, to get rid of conviction, men have tried to destroy the whole law. But could they destroy it? No; for all who will search the Scriptures for themselves will see that the law of God stands immutable, eternal, and His memorial, the Sabbath, will endure through eternal ages, pointing to the only true God in distinction from all false gods” (Selected Messages, Book 2, p. 107.1, 1958). “The Lord gave us favor with the people, and we had many wonderful opportunities to demonstrate what could be done through the principles of health reform to restore to health those whose cases had been pronounced hopeless” (Counsels on Diet and Foods, p. 442.4, 1906). The evidence presented from both biblical and prophetic texts confirms that restoration is a vital work in preparing for Christ’s second coming. Thus, reformation, the act of making humanity over again according to God’s original plan, is essential for the fulfillment of God’s promises. Yet what role does marriage play in this comprehensive reformation?

MARRIAGE MIGHT REVEALED!

Reformation is more than just a concept; it is a process of restoring divine truths, including marriage, which is often overlooked in the work of restoration. Sr. White emphasizes the twin institutions of the Sabbath and marriage, stating that both were established in Eden for the glory of God and humanity’s benefit (Mount of Blessings, p. 63). While the Sabbath has traditionally received attention, marriage, as God intended it, must also be restored. Marriage predates the Sabbath, and its significance as a divine institution is crucial to understanding God’s plan for humanity. The restoration of marriage involves returning to the original principles of unity and love that God created in the beginning. Revealing its foundational role, marriage reflects God’s design. Genesis 2:18 declares, “And the LORD God said, It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him an help meet for him,” and Ephesians 5:25 commands, “Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it.” “Like every other one of God’s good gifts entrusted to the keeping of humanity, marriage has been perverted by sin; but it is the purpose of the gospel to restore its purity and beauty” (The Adventist Home, p. 100.1, 1952). “Marriage, in a majority of cases, is a most galling yoke. There are thousands that are mated but not matched. The books of heaven are burdened with the woes, the wickedness, and the abuse that lie hidden under the marriage mantle” (The Adventist Home, p. 44.1, 1952). This restoration message is part of the larger call for reformation in preparation for Christ’s return. But how does comprehensive restoration encompass all of God’s institutions?

DIVINE DESIGN DAWN!

As we move forward in understanding this restoration, it is essential to recognize that God’s reformation work is not limited to individual aspects but encompasses the entirety of His divine institutions. The restoration of all things includes adherence to God’s original design for marriage and the Sabbath. This comprehensive approach to reformation serves as a catalyst for hastening Christ’s return. As Sr. White points out, “Christ is waiting with longing desire for the manifestation of Himself in His church” (Christ’s Object Lessons, p. 69). Therefore, the restoration of God’s character in His people, reflected through obedience to His divine institutions, is essential for fulfilling the promise of His return. Scripture reveals the comprehensive renewal. Isaiah 61:4 states, “And they shall build the old wastes, they shall raise up the former desolations, and they shall repair the waste cities, the desolations of many generations,” and Psalm 51:12 pleads, “Restore unto me the joy of thy salvation; and uphold me with thy free spirit.” “The Lord gave us favor with the people, and we had many wonderful opportunities to demonstrate what could be done through the principles of health reform to restore to health those whose cases had been pronounced hopeless” (Counsels on Diet and Foods, p. 442.4, 1906). “The grace of Christ, and this alone, can make this institution what God designed it should be—an agent for the blessing and uplifting of humanity. And thus the families of earth, in their unity and peace and love, may represent the family of heaven” (The Adventist Home, p. 100.2, 1952). But what does God’s original design for marriage truly entail?

EDEN UNION EPIC!

In the beginning, God established marriage as the first divine institution, creating man and woman in His image to reflect His likeness. Genesis 1:26-28 illustrates God’s intention for humanity, declaring, “Let us make man in our image… and let them have dominion over all the earth” (KJV). This assertion highlights the unique creation of humanity, distinct from animals, and emphasizes their shared purpose. God’s command to be fruitful and multiply and have dominion shows that marriage was integral to His design for creation. Through these instructions, God not only demonstrated the importance of human relationships but also revealed His plan for unity and dominion over the earth. As Sr. White affirms, “Man was becoming so hardhearted that he would… separate from his wife” (Adventist Home, p. 341). Satan’s perversion of marriage led to broken homes, but God’s original plan for marriage was one of unity and mutual support. Christ restores this sacred bond. Hebrews 13:4 states, “Marriage is honourable in all, and the bed undefiled: but whoremongers and adulterers God will judge,” and Proverbs 18:22 declares, “Whoso findeth a wife findeth a good thing, and obtaineth favour of the LORD.” “God made from the man a woman, to be a companion and help-meet for him, to be one with him, to cheer, encourage, and bless him, he in turn to be her strong helper. All who enter into matrimonial relations with a holy purpose—the husband to obtain the pure affections of a woman’s heart, the wife to soften and improve her husband’s character and give it completeness—fulfill God’s purpose for them” (The Adventist Home, p. 99.2, 1952). “Nothing but the violation of the marriage bed can either break or annul the marriage vow. We are living in perilous times, and the marriage relation has been erroneously viewed” (The Adventist Home, p. 341.3, 1952). Therefore, the divine institution of marriage must be viewed as sacred, rooted in God’s design for humanity from the very beginning. But how did Christ address misconceptions about marriage during His ministry?

DIVORCE DILEMMA DRAMA!

It is essential to explore how Christ, through His ministry, initiated a reformation that corrected misunderstandings about marriage, particularly for the innocent party involved in divorce. The institution of marriage is sacred, and Christ came to reform the misconceptions surrounding it. His first miracle at a marriage in Cana signified its importance (Adventist Home, p. 341). Throughout His teachings, Jesus emphasized the holiness of marriage and addressed questions surrounding divorce and remarriage. In doing so, He corrected the misunderstandings of the time, offering a clear stance on what it means to be guilty or innocent in cases of adultery following a divorce. Christ upholds the sanctity despite human failings. Malachi 2:16 states, “For the LORD, the God of Israel, saith that he hateth putting away: for one covereth violence with his garment, saith the LORD of hosts: therefore take heed to your spirit, that ye deal not treacherously,” and Matthew 19:6 declares, “Wherefore they are no more twain, but one flesh. What therefore God hath joined together, let not man put asunder.” “Jesus did not enforce celibacy upon any class of men. He came not to destroy the sacred relationship of marriage, but to exalt it and restore it to its original sanctity. He looks with pleasure upon the family relationship where sacred and unselfish love bears sway” (The Adventist Home, p. 121.2, 1952). “Like every other one of God’s good gifts entrusted to the keeping of humanity, marriage has been perverted by sin; but it is the purpose of the gospel to restore its purity and beauty” (The Adventist Home, p. 100.1, 1952). But what did Christ specifically teach about innocence and guilt in divorce?

INNOCENCE INSIGHTS IGNITE!

Jesus clarified the issue when the Pharisees questioned Him about the legality of divorce. In Mark 10:2-12, Christ pointed out that Moses allowed divorce due to the hardness of people’s hearts, but God’s original design was for a man and woman to become one flesh in marriage. Christ emphasized that what God has united should not be separated. He also declared that if a man divorces his wife and marries another, he commits adultery. The same is true for a woman who divorces her husband. In this passage, Christ identified the guilty party in cases of remarriage after divorce as an adulterer, irrespective of gender. Thus, the sanctity of marriage is upheld, and adultery is clearly condemned when remarriage occurs after divorce. Scripture reveals the consequences clearly. Romans 7:2-3 states, “For the woman which hath an husband is bound by the law to her husband so long as he liveth; but if the husband be dead, she is loosed from the law of her husband. So then if, while her husband liveth, she be married to another man, she shall be called an adulteress: but if her husband be dead, she is free from that law; so that she is no adulteress, though she be married to another man,” and 1 Corinthians 7:39 declares, “The wife is bound by the law as long as her husband liveth; but if her husband be dead, she is at liberty to be married to whom she will; only in the Lord.” “A woman may be legally divorced from her husband by the laws of the land and yet not divorced in the sight of God and according to the higher law. There is only one sin, which is adultery, which can place the husband or wife in a position where they can be free from the marriage vow in the sight of God” (Manuscript Releases, vol. 17, p. 156, 1902). “Although the laws of the land may grant a divorce, yet they are husband and wife still in the Bible light, according to the laws of God” (Manuscript Releases, vol. 17, p. 156, 1902). But what about the innocent spouse in divorce cases?

GUILT GRAPPLE GONE!

A critical question arises regarding the innocent spouse in cases of divorce. According to the text in Luke 16:18, even if the innocent spouse remarries, the new union is considered adulterous. This teaching was consistent across the Gospels, demonstrating that both guilty and innocent parties are subject to the same standard. In fact, Jesus reinforced this by stating that anyone who marries a divorced individual commits adultery, thereby extending the culpability to the new spouse. The law is upheld consistently, and remarriage after divorce is deemed sinful. Jesus made it clear that in God’s eyes, once a marriage bond is established, it remains intact unless one partner dies (Romans 7:2-3). This teaching challenges the human tendency to seek justification for divorce and remarriage, calling for greater reverence for marriage as a divine institution. Christ exposes the permanence of the bond. Matthew 5:28 states, “But I say unto you, That whosoever looketh on a woman to lust after her hath committed adultery with her already in his heart,” and Proverbs 6:32 declares, “But whoso committeth adultery with a woman lacketh understanding: he that doeth it destroyeth his own soul.” “There is only one sin, which is adultery, which can place the husband or wife in a position where they can be free from the marriage vow in the sight of God” (Manuscript Releases, vol. 17, p. 156, 1902). “A woman may be legally divorced from her husband by the laws of the land and yet not divorced in the sight of God and according to the higher law” (Manuscript Releases, vol. 17, p. 156, 1902). But how did Christ elevate the sanctity of marriage in His teachings?

SANCTITY SURGE SUPREME!

Christ’s teachings in these passages clarify that adultery is a severe sin, and remarriage after divorce, whether by the guilty or innocent party, constitutes adultery. While some may view this as harsh, Christ’s objective was to elevate the sanctity of marriage. The Pharisees, who were often legalistic in their approach, misunderstood or manipulated God’s law to suit their desires. Jesus addressed this directly, indicating that God’s laws are unchanging, and efforts to justify sinful actions are futile (Luke 16:14-17). By reaffirming the permanence of marriage, Christ sought to reform the people’s understanding of the law, calling for adherence to God’s original intent for marriage. Scripture reveals the unchanging standard. Deuteronomy 24:1-4 states, “When a man hath taken a wife, and married her, and it come to pass that she find no favour in his eyes, because he hath found some uncleanness in her: then let him write her a bill of divorcement, and give it in her hand, and send her out of his house. And when she is departed out of his house, she may go and be another man’s wife. And if the latter husband hate her, and write her a bill of divorcement, and giveth it in her hand, and sendeth her out of his house; or if the latter husband die, which took her to be his wife; Her former husband, which sent her away, may not take her again to be his wife, after that she is defiled; for that is abomination before the LORD: and thou shalt not cause the land to sin, which the LORD thy God giveth thee for an inheritance,” and Matthew 5:31-32 declares, “It hath been said, Whosoever shall put away his wife, let him give her a writing of divorcement: But I say unto you, That whosoever shall put away his wife, saving for the cause of fornication, causeth her to commit adultery: and whosoever shall marry her that is divorced committeth adultery.” “Christ came not to destroy this institution, but to restore it to its original sanctity and elevation. He came to restore the moral image of God in man, and He began His work by sanctioning the marriage relation” (The Adventist Home, p. 99.2, 1952). “Marriage is something that will influence and affect your life both in this world and in the world to come. A sincere Christian will not advance his plans in this direction without the knowledge that God approves his course” (The Adventist Home, p. 43.1, 1952). Having established Christ’s stance on marriage and divorce, we must now examine His meaning in Matthew 19. In doing so, it is essential to remember that Scripture does not contradict itself. As we continue to study this topic, we should seek understanding through prayer and careful comparison of different passages. By doing so, we can reconcile any apparent contradictions and gain a fuller understanding of Christ’s teachings on marriage, divorce, and remarriage. But what specific insights does Matthew 19 provide?

PHARISEE PLOT PUMMELED!

In Matthew 19, Christ addresses the topic of divorce, presenting a clear stance that contrasts with the traditions of His time. The Pharisees attempted to challenge Jesus with the question, “Is it lawful for a man to put away his wife for every cause?” (Matthew 19:3, KJV). Jesus responded by referring them not to the customs of Moses or the examples of David but to the very beginning—when God created man and woman as one. He emphasized that marriage, as instituted by God in the Garden of Eden, was designed to be a permanent union (Matthew 19:4-6). Thus, Christ restored the original meaning of marriage, which had been distorted over time by human traditions. Christ reveals the divine origin clearly. Genesis 2:24 states, “Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave unto his wife: and they shall be one flesh,” and Mark 10:9 declares, “What therefore God hath joined together, let not man put asunder.” “God celebrated the first marriage. Thus the institution has for its originator the Creator of the universe. ‘Marriage is honorable’ (Hebrews 13:4); it was one of the first gifts of God to man, and it is one of the two institutions that, after the Fall, Adam brought with him beyond the gates of Paradise” (Patriarchs and Prophets, p. 46, 1890). “When the divine principles are recognized and obeyed in this relation, marriage is a blessing; it guards the purity and happiness of the race, it provides for man’s social needs, it elevates the physical, the intellectual, and the moral nature” (Patriarchs and Prophets, p. 46, 1890). But how did Jesus uphold the sanctity of marriage from the beginning?

CREATION COVENANT CLARIFIED!

The assertion that Jesus upheld the sanctity of marriage from the beginning is supported by His reference to creation: “He which made them at the beginning made them male and female” (Matthew 19:4, KJV). This statement points to the divine origin and purpose of marriage, which is to unite a man and a woman as one flesh. Christ further clarified this by stating, “What therefore God hath joined together, let not man put asunder” (Matthew 19:6, KJV). In other words, no human authority has the right to dissolve what God has ordained. The evidence here is clear: Jesus was calling His followers to a higher standard of marriage, one rooted in the original plan of God. This commentary highlights the importance of aligning our understanding of marriage with the Bible, not with the practices of the world. Christ reveals the eternal bond. Malachi 2:14-15 states, “Yet ye say, Wherefore? Because the LORD hath been witness between thee and the wife of thy youth, against whom thou hast dealt treacherously: yet is she thy companion, and the wife of thy covenant. And did not he make one? Yet had he the residue of the spirit. And wherefore one? That he might seek a godly seed. Therefore take heed to your spirit, and let none deal treacherously against the wife of his youth,” and Proverbs 2:17 declares, “Which forsaketh the guide of her youth, and forgetteth the covenant of her God.” “Marriage was from the creation constituted by God a divine ordinance. The marriage institution was made in Eden. The Sabbath of the fourth commandment was instituted in Eden, when the foundations of the world were laid, when the morning stars sang together, and all the sons of God shouted for joy. Then marriage and the Sabbath had their origin, twin institutions for the glory of God in the benefit of humanity” (The Adventist Home, p. 341.1, 1952). “The family tie is the closest, the most tender and sacred, of any on earth. It was designed to be a blessing to mankind. And it is a blessing wherever the marriage covenant is entered into intelligently, in the fear of God, and with due consideration for its responsibilities” (The Adventist Home, p. 18.1, 1952). But how did the Pharisees counter Christ’s teaching?

HARDNESS HEARTBREAK HALTED!

The Pharisees, however, were quick to counter with the example of Moses, who permitted divorce under certain circumstances (Matthew 19:7). They believed they had trapped Jesus in a contradiction, but Jesus quickly clarified the issue. He explained that Moses allowed divorce “because of the hardness of your hearts” (Matthew 19:8). This concession was not part of God’s original plan but was a response to the people’s stubbornness. Jesus pointed out that from the beginning, it was not so. The allowance for divorce under Moses was a temporary measure, not an endorsement of divorce as part of God’s will. This demonstrates that Christ sought to bring His listeners back to the higher moral standard established in Eden, where marriage was meant to be a lifelong commitment. Scripture reveals the concession’s temporary nature. Deuteronomy 24:1 states, “When a man hath taken a wife, and married her, and it come to pass that she find no favour in his eyes, because he hath found some uncleanness in her: then let him write her a bill of divorcement, and give it in her hand, and send her out of his house,” and Jeremiah 3:8 declares, “And I saw, when for all the causes whereby backsliding Israel committed adultery I had put her away, and given her a bill of divorce; yet her treacherous sister Judah feared not, but went and played the harlot also.” “In the youthful head of the family is laid the responsibility of the entire family, as far as the physical, mental, morals, and religious experience and development are concerned. Upon him rests the responsibility of a happy or unhappy home” (The Adventist Home, p. 212.2, 1952). “Marriage, in a majority of cases, is a most galling yoke. There are thousands that are mated but not matched. The books of heaven are burdened with the woes, the wickedness, and the abuse that lie hidden under the marriage mantle” (The Adventist Home, p. 44.1, 1952). But what about the issue of fornication in divorce?

FORNICATION FIASCO FOILED!

The question of divorce and remarriage is further explored when Jesus addresses the issue of fornication. In Matthew 19:9, He states, “Whosoever shall put away his wife, except it be for fornication, and shall marry another, committeth adultery”. This passage has often been misunderstood and misapplied, but when examined carefully, it aligns with Christ’s overall message. Divorce, while permitted in cases of marital unfaithfulness, is not encouraged. Instead, Jesus elevates the ideal of marriage as a union that should only be broken by death. The commentary on this passage emphasizes the need for us to approach the subject of divorce with the same seriousness that Christ did, recognizing the sanctity of marriage and the consequences of breaking that covenant (The Adventist Home, p. 341). Christ reveals the exception’s gravity. Matthew 19:9 states, “And I say unto you, Whosoever shall put away his wife, except it be for fornication, and shall marry another, committeth adultery: and whoso marrieth her which is put away doth commit adultery,” and Luke 16:18 declares, “Whosoever putteth away his wife, and marrieth another, committeth adultery: and whosoever marrieth her that is put away from her husband committeth adultery.” “There is only one sin, which is adultery, which can place the husband or wife in a position where they can be free from the marriage vow in the sight of God” (Manuscript Releases, vol. 17, p. 156, 1902). “A woman may be legally divorced from her husband by the laws of the land and yet not divorced in the sight of God and according to the higher law” (Manuscript Releases, vol. 17, p. 156, 1902). But what is the true meaning of Christ’s teaching in Matthew 19?

LIFELONG BOND BLAST!

Christ’s teaching in Matthew 19 restores the original intent of marriage as a lifelong, indissoluble union between a man and a woman. His response to the Pharisees and His explanation of Moses’ concession demonstrate that God’s will for marriage remains unchanged from the time of creation. As followers of Christ, we are called to uphold this high standard, viewing marriage as a sacred covenant that should not be broken. The issue of divorce, though permitted in cases of infidelity, should be approached with the understanding that it is a deviation from God’s perfect plan. Ultimately, Christ’s message calls us to reflect on the sanctity of marriage and the importance of aligning our lives with God’s original design. Scripture reveals the eternal standard. Genesis 2:24 states, “Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave unto his wife: and they shall be one flesh,” and Matthew 19:6 declares, “Wherefore they are no more twain, but one flesh. What therefore God hath joined together, let not man put asunder.” “God celebrated the first marriage. Thus the institution has for its originator the Creator of the universe. ‘Marriage is honorable’ (Hebrews 13:4); it was one of the first gifts of God to man, and it is one of the two institutions that, after the Fall, Adam brought with him beyond the gates of Paradise” (Patriarchs and Prophets, p. 46, 1890). “When the divine principles are recognized and obeyed in this relation, marriage is a blessing; it guards the purity and happiness of the race, it provides for man’s social needs, it elevates the physical, the intellectual, and the moral nature” (Patriarchs and Prophets, p. 46, 1890). But how do we often misunderstand biblical verses on divorce?

MISCONCEPTION MAYHEM MASTERED!

In discussing the topic of divorce, we often misunderstand the meaning of certain biblical verses due to quick reading or preconceived notions. One such passage is Matthew 5:32, where Jesus addresses the conditions under which divorce may occur. He states, “But I say unto you, That whosoever shall put away his wife, saving for the cause of fornication, causeth her to commit adultery: and whosoever shall marry her that is divorced committeth adultery” (Matthew 5:32, KJV). The assertion here is that Jesus is making a clear distinction about the circumstances in which divorce is permissible and the consequences of remarriage. The evidence for this is found in the language of the verse, which explains that the act of putting away one’s spouse, except for fornication, causes adultery. Commentary on this highlights that divorce without cause leads to a situation where the divorced spouse, seeking comfort and remarriage, falls into sin, thus reinforcing the sanctity of marriage as a lifelong bond. Christ reveals the peril of hasty actions. Mark 10:11-12 states, “And he saith unto them, Whosoever shall put away his wife, and marry another, committeth adultery against her. And if a woman shall put away her husband, and be married to another, she committeth adultery,” and 1 Corinthians 7:10-11 declares, “And unto the married I command, yet not I, but the Lord, Let not the wife depart from her husband: But and if she depart, let her remain unmarried or be reconciled to her husband: and let not the husband put away his wife.” “Nothing but the violation of the marriage bed can either break or annul the marriage vow. We are living in perilous times, and the marriage relation has been erroneously viewed” (The Adventist Home, p. 341.3, 1952). “Marriage is something that will influence and affect your life both in this world and in the world to come. A sincere Christian will not advance his plans in this direction without the knowledge that God approves his course” (The Adventist Home, p. 43.1, 1952). But what does Matthew 19:9 affirm about consequences?

ADULTERY AFTERMATH ALERT!

In further examining Matthew 19:9, we see a similar assertion regarding the consequences of divorce and remarriage: “Whosoever shall put away his wife except it be for fornication, and shall marry another, committeth adultery” (Matthew 19:9). This verse clearly affirms the earlier statement from Matthew 5:32. The evidence is consistent in both passages—remarriage after divorce, except in cases of fornication, constitutes adultery. Commentary on this passage reminds us that the Bible is internally consistent. No matter the reason for the divorce—whether caused by the spouse’s unfaithfulness or not—remarrying while the first spouse lives is viewed as adulterous. This consistency supports the broader biblical teaching on the permanence of marriage and the gravity of breaking that covenant (The Adventist Home, p. 341). Christ reveals the unchanging truth. Romans 7:2 states, “For the woman which hath an husband is bound by the law to her husband so long as he liveth; but if the husband be dead, she is loosed from the law of her husband,” and Luke 16:18 declares, “Whosoever putteth away his wife, and marrieth another, committeth adultery: and whosoever marrieth her that is put away from her husband committeth adultery.” “There is only one sin, which is adultery, which can place the husband or wife in a position where they can be free from the marriage vow in the sight of God” (Manuscript Releases, vol. 17, p. 156, 1902). “A woman may be legally divorced from her husband by the laws of the land and yet not divorced in the sight of God and according to the higher law” (Manuscript Releases, vol. 17, p. 156, 1902). But what does Paul add to this teaching?

PAUL’S PERMANENCE PROCLAIMED!

To further clarify, Paul addresses this issue in 1 Corinthians 7:10-11, where he writes, “Let not the wife depart from her husband: But and if she depart, let her remain unmarried, or be reconciled to her husband: and let not the husband put away his wife”. This assertion complements the teachings of Jesus in Matthew 19:9 and further underscores the sanctity of marriage. Paul, speaking under divine inspiration, emphasizes that if separation occurs, it should not lead to remarriage. The evidence of this can be seen in Paul’s insistence on either reconciliation or remaining unmarried. The commentary on this passage indicates that the apostle’s teachings align with the divine will expressed through Christ’s earthly ministry, affirming that marriage is a bond that should not be dissolved lightly or without consequence. Scripture reveals the call to reconciliation. 1 Corinthians 7:39 states, “The wife is bound by the law as long as her husband liveth; but if her husband be dead, she is at liberty to be married to whom she will; only in the Lord,” and Romans 7:3 declares, “So then if, while her husband liveth, she be married to another man, she shall be called an adulteress: but if her husband be dead, she is free from that law; so that she is no adulteress, though she be married to another man.” “Marriage is something that will influence and affect your life both in this world and in the world to come. A sincere Christian will not advance his plans in this direction without the knowledge that God approves his course” (The Adventist Home, p. 43.1, 1952). “The family tie is the closest, the most tender and sacred, of any on earth. It was designed to be a blessing to mankind. And it is a blessing wherever the marriage covenant is entered into intelligently, in the fear of God, and with due consideration for its responsibilities” (The Adventist Home, p. 18.1, 1952). But what does Paul reiterate in Romans?

COVENANT CHAINS CONQUERED!

In Romans 7:1-3, Paul reiterates this teaching, explaining that a woman is bound to her husband “as long as he liveth” (Romans 7:2, KJV). This means that marriage is a lifelong commitment, severed only by death. The assertion here is that remarriage, while the original spouse lives, is considered adulterous. Paul’s evidence comes from the law itself, which governs marriage and defines its boundaries. The commentary on this passage reflects the seriousness with which vows made before God are to be regarded. Marriage is not merely a legal arrangement but a spiritual covenant, one that carries significant moral and religious implications. As Sr. White states, “Marriage is a step taken for life. Both the man and the woman should carefully consider whether they can cleave to each other through the vicissitudes of life if they both shall live” (The Adventist Home, p. 340). Scripture reveals the binding nature. 1 Corinthians 7:10-11 states, “And unto the married I command, yet not I, but the Lord, Let not the wife depart from her husband: But and if she depart, let her remain unmarried or be reconciled to her husband: and let not the husband put away his wife,” and Mark 10:9 declares, “What therefore God hath joined together, let not man put asunder.” “God celebrated the first marriage. Thus the institution has for its originator the Creator of the universe. ‘Marriage is honorable’ (Hebrews 13:4); it was one of the first gifts of God to man, and it is one of the two institutions that, after the Fall, Adam brought with him beyond the gates of Paradise” (Patriarchs and Prophets, p. 46, 1890). “When the divine principles are recognized and obeyed in this relation, marriage is a blessing; it guards the purity and happiness of the race, it provides for man’s social needs, it elevates the physical, the intellectual, and the moral nature” (Patriarchs and Prophets, p. 46, 1890). But what is Sr. White’s perspective on divorce and remarriage?

WHITE’S WISDOM WARNS!

Ellen G. White’s writings on marriage, divorce, and remarriage align with biblical principles, emphasizing marriage as a lifelong covenant. When Jesus was questioned about divorce, He pointed back to creation, stating that from the beginning, marriage was intended to unite a man and a woman for life (Matthew 19:4-8). However, the Pharisees referred to Moses, who allowed divorce due to the hardness of people’s hearts. Similarly, White explained that while permission for remarriage exists, it is not God’s original intent, as evidenced in her writings. The assertion is that White’s counsel, much like Moses’, acknowledges the frailty of human nature while maintaining the sanctity of marriage. Sr. White reveals the divine ideal. Ephesians 5:25 states, “Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it,” and Genesis 2:24 declares, “Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave unto his wife: and they shall be one flesh.” “God made from the man a woman, to be a companion and help-meet for him, to be one with him, to cheer, encourage, and bless him, he in turn to be her strong helper. All who enter into matrimonial relations with a holy purpose—the husband to obtain the pure affections of a woman’s heart, the wife to soften and improve her husband’s character and give it completeness—fulfill God’s purpose for them” (The Adventist Home, p. 99.2, 1952). “Nothing but the violation of the marriage bed can either break or annul the marriage vow. We are living in perilous times, and the marriage relation has been erroneously viewed” (The Adventist Home, p. 341.3, 1952). But what examples did Sr. White reference in her letters?

REMARRIAGE REVELATIONS REVEALED!

In her letters, Sr. White references cases of remarriage, such as the one found in Testimonies on Sexual Behavior, Adultery, and Divorce. In this case, a man named Walter remarried after his first wife left him and married another. Sr. White cautiously acknowledged this marriage, stating, “I see nothing in the Scripture that forbids him to marry again in the Lord” (Testimonies on Sexual Behavior, Adultery, and Divorce, p. 68). However, she also implied that such relationships, permitted due to human weaknesses, could still lead to negative outcomes. Fifteen years later, the marriage ended in separation, confirming her initial caution. This example highlights the tension between biblical ideals and the reality of human choices. Sr. White reveals the caution needed. 1 Corinthians 7:39 states, “The wife is bound by the law as long as her husband liveth; but if her husband be dead, she is at liberty to be married to whom she will; only in the Lord,” and Romans 7:2-3 declares, “For the woman which hath an husband is bound by the law to her husband so long as he liveth; but if the husband be dead, she is loosed from the law of her husband. So then if, while her husband liveth, she be married to another man, she shall be called an adulteress: but if her husband be dead, she is free from that law; so that she is no adulteress, though she be married to another man.” “A woman may be legally divorced from her husband by the laws of the land and yet not divorced in the sight of God and according to the higher law” (Manuscript Releases, vol. 17, p. 156, 1902). “There is only one sin, which is adultery, which can place the husband or wife in a position where they can be free from the marriage vow in the sight of God” (Manuscript Releases, vol. 17, p. 156, 1902). But how does Sr. White view Moses’ allowance for divorce?

HARDNESS HEALED HEROIC!

Sr. White’s acknowledgment that Moses allowed divorce “because of the hardness of your hearts” (Matthew 19:8) reinforces her stance that these permissions were not part of God’s perfect will. In her writings, she refers to such situations as “evils,” akin to Moses’ condemnation of remarriage as defiling. The evidence comes from the following statements where she emphasized that while civil laws may permit divorce, such actions do not necessarily align with God’s higher law. Here are three quotes illustrating her perspective:

“A woman may be legally divorced from her husband by the laws of the land and yet not divorced in the sight of God and according to the higher law.” (Manuscript Releases, vol. 17, p. 156)
“There is only one sin, which is adultery, which can place the husband or wife in a position where they can be free from the marriage vow in the sight of God.” (Manuscript Releases, vol. 17, p. 156)
“Although the laws of the land may grant a divorce, yet they are husband and wife still in the Bible light, according to the laws of God.” (Manuscript Releases, vol. 17, p. 156)

These statements underscore her belief that human concessions for divorce and remarriage fall short of God’s ideal for marriage. Sr. White reveals the higher law. Matthew 19:8 states, “He saith unto them, Moses because of the hardness of your hearts suffered you to put away your wives: but from the beginning it was not so,” and Deuteronomy 24:1-4 declares, “When a man hath taken a wife, and married her, and it come to pass that she find no favour in his eyes, because he hath found some uncleanness in her: then let him write her a bill of divorcement, and give it in her hand, and send her out of his house. And when she is departed out of his house, she may go and be another man’s wife. And if the latter husband hate her, and write her a bill of divorcement, and giveth it in her hand, and sendeth her out of his house; or if the latter husband die, which took her to be his wife; Her former husband, which sent her away, may not take her again to be his wife, after that she is defiled; for that is abomination before the LORD: and thou shalt not cause the land to sin, which the LORD thy God giveth thee for an inheritance.” “Marriage is a step taken for life. Both the man and the woman should carefully consider whether they can cleave to each other through the vicissitudes of life if they both shall live” (The Adventist Home, p. 340, 1952). “Marriage, in a majority of cases, is a most galling yoke. There are thousands that are mated but not matched. The books of heaven are burdened with the woes, the wickedness, and the abuse that lie hidden under the marriage mantle” (The Adventist Home, p. 44.1, 1952). But what was Sr. White’s counsel on marriage as a lifelong bond?

LIFELONG LOVE LEGACY!

Sr. White’s counsel was clear that marriage should be carefully considered, as it is a lifelong bond. She warned of the potential for misery and separation, even in relationships that began with happiness. Her writings emphasize that divorce and remarriage are not part of God’s original plan, but allowances have been made due to the hardness of human hearts. This assertion is reinforced in the book The Adventist Home, where Sr. White writes, “Marriage is a step taken for life. Both the man and the woman should carefully consider whether they can cleave to each other through the vicissitudes of life if they both shall live” (The Adventist Home, p. 340). Scripture reveals the solemn commitment. Proverbs 2:17 states, “Which forsaketh the guide of her youth, and forgetteth the covenant of her God,” and Malachi 2:14 declares, “Yet ye say, Wherefore? Because the LORD hath been witness between thee and the wife of thy youth, against whom thou hast dealt treacherously: yet is she thy companion, and the wife of thy covenant.” “God celebrated the first marriage. Thus the institution has for its originator the Creator of the universe. ‘Marriage is honorable’ (Hebrews 13:4); it was one of the first gifts of God to man, and it is one of the two institutions that, after the Fall, Adam brought with him beyond the gates of Paradise” (Patriarchs and Prophets, p. 46, 1890). “When the divine principles are recognized and obeyed in this relation, marriage is a blessing; it guards the purity and happiness of the race, it provides for man’s social needs, it elevates the physical, the intellectual, and the moral nature” (Patriarchs and Prophets, p. 46, 1890). But how serious are fornication and adultery in God’s eyes?

SIN SHADOWS SHATTERED!

Fornication and adultery have long been viewed as significant transgressions in the eyes of God. Sr. White highlights the gravity of these sins among us, especially those who profess to follow God’s commandments. As she states, “fornication and adultery are estimated by a large number of the first-day Adventists as sins which God winks at” (Testimonies for the Church, Vol. 2, p. 449). These moral failings are not mere personal missteps; they represent a deep violation of the law of God, and their effects ripple through the spiritual lives of those who engage in them. In the modern era, media scandals often expose the prevalence of these sins, demonstrating how far society has strayed from biblical principles. However, the real danger lies in the teachings of those who claim that the law no longer applies, as their actions mirror their misleading messages. Christ exposes the severity of these sins. Galatians 5:19-21 states, “Now the works of the flesh are manifest, which are these; Adultery, fornication, uncleanness, lasciviousness, Idolatry, witchcraft, hatred, variance, emulations, wrath, strife, seditions, heresies, Envyings, murders, drunkenness, revellings, and such like: of the which I tell you before, as I have also told you in time past, that they which do such things shall not inherit the kingdom of God,” and 1 Corinthians 6:9-10 declares, “Know ye not that the unrighteous shall not inherit the kingdom of God? Be not deceived: neither fornicators, nor idolaters, nor adulterers, nor effeminate, nor abusers of themselves with mankind, Nor thieves, nor covetous, nor drunkards, nor revilers, nor extortioners, shall inherit the kingdom of God.” “Fornication and adultery are estimated by many professing Christians as sins which God winketh at. These sins are practiced to a great extent. They do not acknowledge the claims of God’s law upon them. They have broken the commandments of the great Jehovah, and are zealously teaching others to transgress also” (A Solemn Appeal, p. 141.1, 1870). “The sin of fornication and adultery, as shown in different nations today, would scarcely have been noticed in the days of Noah. Men then followed the imagination of their own hearts; there was no limit to their wickedness. Their iniquity reached unto heaven and brought down the overwhelming waters of the Flood” (The Signs of the Times, March 13, 1884). But why are these sins more serious among God’s people?

PEOPLE’S PERIL PROBED!

The assertion that fornication and adultery are more serious among God’s people is underscored by the fact that they have been given great light. Sr. White emphasizes this in her writings: “Warnings and reproofs are not given to the erring among Seventh-day Adventists because their lives are more blameworthy than are the lives of professed Christians of the nominal churches… but because they have great light” (White, Testimonies for the Church, Vol. 2, p. 452). This great light refers to the knowledge of God’s law and the responsibility to uphold it. When we engage in fornication and adultery, we dishonor God in a profound way because we are seen as His representatives on earth. Our actions carry a heavier weight of guilt because we are held to a higher standard, knowing the truth and yet choosing to transgress. This is a sobering reminder that those who know the truth have an even greater responsibility to live in accordance with it. Scripture reveals the heightened accountability. Hebrews 10:26 states, “For if we sin wilfully after that we have received the knowledge of the truth, there remaineth no more sacrifice for sins,” and James 4:17 declares, “Therefore to him that knoweth to do good, and doeth it not, to him it is sin.” “Fornication and adultery are estimated by many professing Christians as sins which God winketh at. These sins are practiced to a great extent. They do not acknowledge the claims of God’s law upon them. They have broken the commandments of the great Jehovah, and are zealously teaching others to transgress also” (A Solemn Appeal, p. 141.1, 1870). “The sin of fornication and adultery, as shown in different nations today, would scarcely have been noticed in the days of Noah. Men then followed the imagination of their own hearts; there was no limit to their wickedness. Their iniquity reached unto heaven and brought down the overwhelming waters of the Flood” (The Signs of the Times, March 13, 1884). But what historical consequences have these sins brought?

CONSEQUENCES CRUSH CONFIRMED!

Historically, the consequences of fornication have been severe. As Sr. White recounts, “It was the prevalence of this very sin, fornication, among ancient Israel, which brought upon them the signal manifestation of God’s displeasure” (Testimonies for the Church, Vol. 2, p. 451). The Bible is replete with examples of how this sin led to the downfall of individuals and entire nations. Satan has always used fornication as a tool to ensnare even the most devout. As the people of God near the “borders of the heavenly Canaan,” Sr. White warns that Satan will “redouble his efforts” to lead them astray through temptations related to fornication (Patriarchs and Prophets, pp. 457-458). The strategies of the enemy have not changed over time; he continues to use worldly pleasures, beauty, and indulgence to lure God’s people into breaking His commandments. Scripture reveals the devastating outcomes. Numbers 25:1-3 states, “And Israel abode in Shittim, and the people began to commit whoredom with the daughters of Moab. And they called the people unto the sacrifices of their gods: and the people did eat, and bowed down to their gods. And Israel joined himself unto Baalpeor: and the anger of the LORD was kindled against Israel,” and Revelation 2:14 declares, “But I have a few things against thee, because thou hast there them that hold the doctrine of Balaam, who taught Balac to cast a stumblingblock before the children of Israel, to eat things sacrificed unto idols, and to commit fornication.” “The sin of fornication and adultery, as shown in different nations today, would scarcely have been noticed in the days of Noah. Men then followed the imagination of their own hearts; there was no limit to their wickedness. Their iniquity reached unto heaven and brought down the overwhelming waters of the Flood” (The Signs of the Times, March 13, 1884). “Fornication and adultery are estimated by many professing Christians as sins which God winketh at. These sins are practiced to a great extent. They do not acknowledge the claims of God’s law upon them. They have broken the commandments of the great Jehovah, and are zealously teaching others to transgress also” (A Solemn Appeal, p. 141.1, 1870). But how serious can we not overstate these sins?

REDEMPTION RISE RENEWED!

The seriousness of fornication and adultery cannot be overstated. These sins strike at the heart of our relationship with God and serve as a direct violation of His law. Sr. White stresses that “those who will not act when the Lord calls upon them… will walk in darkness” (Testimonies for the Church, Vol. 3, p. 258). God’s people are called to respond to His voice in faith, not waiting for perfect evidence, but trusting in the weight of the light He provides. The consequences of ignoring this call are severe, and the opportunity for repentance may never come again. The only solution for those trapped in such sins is found in the grace of Christ, who can “make this institution what God designed it should be” (Mount of Blessings, p. 65). Through His grace, even the most broken relationships can be healed, and those who have fallen into sin can find redemption. As we strive to follow God’s commandments, it is essential to remember that a life of faith not only avoids sin but also embraces the blessings of generosity and service to others, for “It is more blessed to give than to receive” (Acts 20:35). Christ provides redemption through grace. Ephesians 1:7 states, “In whom we have redemption through his blood, the forgiveness of sins, according to the riches of his grace,” and Titus 2:11-12 declares, “For the grace of God that bringeth salvation hath appeared to all men, Teaching us that, denying ungodliness and worldly lusts, we should live soberly, righteously, and godly, in this present world.” “The sin of fornication and adultery, as shown in different nations today, would scarcely have been noticed in the days of Noah. Men then followed the imagination of their own hearts; there was no limit to their wickedness. Their iniquity reached unto heaven and brought down the overwhelming waters of the Flood” (The Signs of the Times, March 13, 1884). “Fornication and adultery are estimated by many professing Christians as sins which God winketh at. These sins are practiced to a great extent. They do not acknowledge the claims of God’s law upon them. They have broken the commandments of the great Jehovah, and are zealously teaching others to transgress also” (A Solemn Appeal, p. 141.1, 1870).

In conclusion, the profound truths shared in these reflections call us to align our lives with God’s original design for humanity. Whether through the sanctity of marriage, the restoration of divine institutions, or adherence to His commandments, our commitment reflects our love for Him. As we confront sin and embrace grace, we prepare our hearts and lives for Christ’s return, fulfilling His call for faithfulness and reformation. By walking in His ways, we not only honor His law but also reveal His character, becoming a light to the world and hastening the fulfillment of His promises.

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